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3rd Batch / Md. Mehadi Hasan Late, Abdul Motin gazi

« on: July 18, 2012, 06:54:10 AM »

Name: Md. Mehadi Hasan    
Father: Late, Abdul Motin gazi    
Mother: Late, Salma Begum   
Vill-Mandria, P.O: Mohamaya Bazar,
P.S: Chandpur, Dist:Chandpur    
Chittagong University (CU), B.Sc Hon's   

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3rd Batch / Shaiful Islam, S/O- Late. Safuillah Mazumder

« on: July 18, 2012, 06:37:53 AM »

Name: Shaiful Islam    
Father: Late, Safuillah Mazumder   
Mother: Dalowara Begum   
Vill- Khilpara, P.O: Khilpara,
P.S: Hajigong, Dist: Chandpur
Chandpur Govt. College    

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3rd Batch / Md. Ataur Rahman, S/O- Md. Siddiqur Rahman

« on: July 18, 2012, 06:07:59 AM »

Md. Ataur Rahman
Father: Md. Siddiqur Rahman    
Mother: Momotaz Begum
Vill- Balair kndi, P.O: Induria,
P.S:Matalb, Dist: Chandpur     
Chandpur Govt. College (Hon's)        

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3rd Batch / Md. Abul Bashar, S/O- Late, Md. Samsul Haque

« on: July 18, 2012, 06:04:46 AM »

Md. Abul Bashar    
Father: Late Md. Samsul Haque    
Mother: Late, Ahfia Begum
Vill- Khilmahyar, P.O: Palkhal,
P.S: Kochua; Dist: Chandpur
HON"S, 1st Year
Commilla Victorya College, Comilla      

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Should Follow / The Power of Positive Attitude

« on: May 12, 2012, 01:57:12 AM »

The Power of Positive Attitude
By Remez Sasson

Positive attitude helps to cope more easily with the daily affairs of life. It brings optimism into your life, and makes it easier to avoid worry and negative thinking. If you adopt it as a way of life, it will bring constructive changes into your life, and makes them happier, brighter and more successful. With a positive attitude you see the bright side of life, become optimistic and expect the best to happen. It is certainly a state of mind that is well worth developing and strengthening.

Positive attitude manifests in the following ways:

Positive thinking.

Constructive thinking.

Creative thinking.

Expecting success.

Optimism.

Motivation to accomplish your goals.

Being inspired.

Choosing happiness.

Not giving up.

Looking at failure and problems as blessings in disguise.

Believing in yourself and in your abilities.

Displaying self-esteem and confidence.

Looking for solutions.

Seeing opportunities.

A positive attitude leads to happiness and success and can change your whole life. If you look at the bright side of life, your whole life becomes filled with light. This light affects not only you and the way you look at the world, but also your whole environment and the people around you. If it is strong enough, it becomes contagious.

The benefits of a positive attitude:

Helps achieving goals and attaining success.

Success achieved faster and more easily.

More happiness.

More energy.

Greater inner power and strength.

The ability to inspire and motivate yourself and others.

Fewer difficulties encountered along the way.

The ability to surmount any difficulty.

Life smiles at you.

People respect you.

Negative attitude says: you cannot achieve success.
Positive attitude says: You can achieve success.

If you have been exhibiting a negative attitude and expecting failure and difficulties, it is now the time to change the way you think. It is time to get rid of negative thoughts and behavior and lead a happy and successful life. Why not start today? If you have tried and failed, it only means that you have not tried enough.

Developing a positive attitude that will lead you to happiness and success:

- Choose to be happy.

- Look at the bright side of life.

- Choose to be and stay optimistic.

- Find reasons to smile more often.

- Have faith in yourself and in the Power of the Universe.

- Contemplate upon the futility of negative thinking and worries.

- Associate yourself with happy people.

- Read inspiring stories.

- Read inspiring quotes.

- Repeat affirmations that inspire and motivate you.

- Visualize only what you want to happen.

- Learn to master your thoughts.

- Learn concentration and meditation.


Following even only one of the above suggestions, will bring more light into your life!

Source: http://www.successconsciousness.com/positive_attitude.htm

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Notice Board / Rules and Regulation of Daffodil Foundation (DF)

« on: March 30, 2012, 11:50:31 PM »

Rules and Regulation of Daffodil Foundation (DF)

Daffodil Foundation is pleased to notify and seeking cooperation from the people concerned to the following matters:

01.   Students who are getting scholarship from Daffodil Foundation will have to maintain a valid e-mail address and check regularly. All related 
       notice & information will be circulated through that mail.
02.   Students must post their updated information in Daffodil Foundation Forum page (http://forum.daffodilfoundation.org/index.php) at least
       once a month.
03.   Students have to update their profile information time to time. If any profile is found not updated s/he will no longer be eligible for getting
       scholarship in future. This rule will be applicable for both Forum and e-mail.
04.   If they maintain these rules properly they will be given priority for the scholarship and other facilities.
05.   These rules are mandatory for the students from passing SSC/Dakhil. Who are in below of SSC/Dakhil level, their information should be
       updated by their locally assigned person.

If you have any problem or confusion or any other query, please contact with us.


Thanking You.

Daffodil Foundation.

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Should Follow / Know Yourself

« on: March 30, 2012, 11:39:57 PM »

Know Yourself

Its an online skill test.
Please visit the following link and know about your status .
(http://cdc.daffodilvarsity.edu.bd/index.php?option=com_aicontactsafe&view=message&layout=message&pf=1&Itemid=96)


Md. Abdullah-Al-Mamun (Badshah)

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Should Follow / 33 Ways To Overcome Frustration

« on: March 27, 2012, 07:11:50 AM »

33 Ways To Overcome Frustration

I have a huge experience with frustration. I experienced it in so many ways, at so many times in my life, that I feel like I’m some kind of a specialist. If you wonder why I have this huge expertise, here’s the answer: growth never happens without it. The more frustration you are able to harvest, resolve and overcome, the more growth you’re experiencing. Avoiding it, hiding from it, deluding the game, none of these strategies will make you a better human being. On the contrary.

What follows is a list of tools and approaches I used to solve my own frustration and limitation episodes.

1. Accept Reality
Yes, something bad happened. Don’t spend your day imagining how beautiful life could be if it wasn’t for that stupid incident or mistake. This is it. It is frustrating, no doubt about it, but rejecting this reality will not lower the frustration, on the contrary, will make it stronger and stronger. Accept reality.

2. Shift Your Focus
It’s so easy to get caught in a spiral of anger and despair when you’re frustrated, and I know that first hand. Shift your focus by engaging in small but demanding activities. Get involved. Do take the necessary steps to get over the frustrating situation, but do not ignore everything else around you.

3. Talk About It With A Friend
Find somebody you trust and talk about it. Let it out. Don’t let it grow inside yourself until you explode. Most of the time, when you reach this point, it’s too late to make a meaningful change that will restore your reality. Let your worries and your tension fly. After all, this is what friends are for, right?

4. Journal It
If you don’t keep a journal, start now. Write down all your fears, all your sensations and describe them in great detail. Do it until you feel you can’t do it no more. You’re going to feel incredibly better. Writing has this side effect of lowering what you write about, making it more manageable. Just try it.

5. Write A Letter About It
Imagine you’re on a desert island. Sit down and write a letter to somebody who could potentially rescue you. Be verbose. Imagine how your life will be after you leave that desert island. Because if you can’t describe that, you will never leave the island. Then destroy the letter.

6. Write A Worse Case Scenario
What is the worst thing that may happen to you right now? List everything from physical loss to emotional imbalances. Try to foresee every little detail of a worst case scenario. What life will you live if everything will turn out as bad as possible? Then read it. It won’t look as bad as you thought.

7. Identify A List Of Possible Actions
What exactly will make the situation acceptable again? What are the things that you could actually do to improve your current status? Make a list. Try to identify every possible action, as improbable as it may seem, and put it on the list. At the end of this, you’ll feel much better: you have work to do.

8. Sleep Over It
Most of your unconscious life happens while you’re asleep. Try to go to bed with a clear thought of resolution. Don’t try to find a solution, just prepare yourself for getting out of that frustrating circle. During the night your unconscious mind will find resources to make you stronger.

9. Be Your Own Avatar
Try to look at yourself from “the outside”. Write on a piece of paper what an observer would see at you. How do you behave? How do you talk, how do you act? The more you’ll do this exercise, the more you’ll differentiate yourself from the frustrating persona and take control over it at the same time.

10. Read Something Funny
This will not solve your problem, most of the time it will only switch your focus to something else, giving you a temporary break. Do not mistake this technique with avoidance, just use it as a chillout session, then get back on track and solve whatever you have to solve.

11. Stop Blaming Yourself
Maybe you did something really wrong, and your current situation is the result of that mistake. Take responsibility but don’t blame yourself. It’s all in the past. You’re in the present now and you can do something about it. Blame will only put weight on that past and drag you down. Avoid it at all cost.

12. Take A Walk
Even on the wild side, if you like the wild side, but do take a walk. The mere action of moving will set you up for action and hopefully will make your mind a little clearer.  Walking always helps me put my thoughts in order and let off the steam a little bit. And it’s free of charge.

13. See It From The Future
This one goes hand in hand with number 6. Try to describe your current situation and look at it from the future. 1 year from now, your problem will be as  big as it is right now? How about 5 years? Or 10 years? Putting your frustration in a larger context will usually weaken it or at least make it manageable.

14. Cook A Delicious Meal
As simple and mundane as it may seem, cooking is an art. And every time you perform some sort of an art, you’ll see the world through your intuitive mind. You’ll summon your way out of frustration rather than find it through logical inference. And cooking is the cheapest – and tastiest – art one can afford.

15. Go To A Party
Not to be abused and transformed into some sort of escapism but extremely useful to lower your shirtiness. Go out, mingle and see if you can wipe out your frown from your face. You can get back to your problems later, when your body and mind will be more balanced. After the hangover, of course.

16. Write About Your Past Successes
You don’t have to keep a journal for it, you can just sit down at a table and remember all your breakthroughs. Or only the most important ones. Seeing yourself succeeding will definitely weaken all that frustration you feel right now and will also give you some hints about how to completely overcome it.

17. Borrow Some Enthusiasm
Stay around energetic people or get involved in active projects. Choose to be part of something that exhales a lot of energy. Get involved in fresh projects. Being around enthusiastic people will lower the frustration to the point where it can actually become manageable. And it will make you just feel better.

18. Soak and Dry
Let it flow through you until you’re completely overloaded. Just be sure not to do something during this stage. Isolate from the world and allow yourself to be frustrated. Then slowly wait for the frustration to dry out. Sometimes, this “all you can eat” approach is the only way to deal with it in a healthy way.

19. Go Watch A Comedy
As an alternative to number 10, “Read Something Funny”. Giving yourself permission to laugh will lower your anger and hopefully will make things easier to handle. Also, seeing people in strangely hilarious situations will make your own frustration seem awkward. Through a good laugh at it.

20. Attack It With The “Why?” Weapon

Another writing exercise, in which you start to find the root cause of your frustration by asking “why?” questions. “Why am I broke?” – Because I spent too much. “Why did I spent too much” – Because I’m feeling insecure. “Why?…” You got the idea. At some point, something will click inside.


21. Volunteer For Something

Frustration is closely related to your ego, or the part of your being that is concerned with those big phrases starting with “Me…”. If you volunteer to do work for somebody else, you’ll stop feeding your ego with energy. The weaker that part gets, the stronger your authentic and powerful part will be.

22. Stand Up And Fight

Be a soldier. Give yourself orders and follow them. Instill some rough and unquestionable discipline in your life. Get up early in the morning, do your work as if you’re on a battle field and then go to sleep. Repeat until your problems become just situations you can solve by following an easy sequence of new orders.

23. Stop Blaming Others

Similar to number 11, only this time your attitude will turn towards other people, in a desperate attempt to avoid feeling hurt. Just stop it. Although it may seem like a relief, blaming others it’s just a temporary hack, it won’t last. In 99% of the situations, what we experience is the direct result of our own actions.

24. Do Small, Repetitive Tasks

Borrow the behavior of a machine. Do those tiny little things you avoided so much because they seemed so boring. Now it’s the best time to start working on them. Slicing your time and focus will dissolve the pressure. Frustration will slowly dilute in this sea of tiny, repetitive tasks.

25. See It From The Past

Alternative to number 13, looking at your own frustration from the past will color it in a new, fresher light  Most of the time, the feeling triggered by this perspective is: “I’ve been through though times before, I can get over this”. And this is more often than you think true: we have a huge life experience, we just don’t trust it enough.

26. Read Similar Stories

You’re not alone. And even if you find it difficult tot talk to other people you can always do this by yourself: just scorch the Internet using descriptive key phrases about your own frustration. You’ll discover that you’re not alone. Somebody else have been there too. And now he’s so over it.

27. Assess Progress

Every second of your life changes something. Look for the small steps you’re doing and assess them. The first item on this assessment list may be: “I’m starting to assess my progress and this is in itself a huge step forward”. The more you write, the bigger your progress will seem.

28. Disguise It

Put a mask on it, make it look like something else: “I’m feeling frustration right now, but this is a mask for…” and replace with whatever quality you want to build: discipline, personal power, endurance. Transform it. I usually use the caterpillar – butterfly image: it’s bad now but look what it can become.

29. Contrast It With A Worse Situation

Try to identify a related situation but with a significantly higher degree of damage. If you’re in debt, imagine how it will be to be bankrupt. If you’re having a relationship hiccup, try to imagine how it would be to live on a desert island for the rest of your life. Be grateful for what you experience, because it can be worse.


30. Dilute It With Meditation

I don’t preach meditation as an all-in-one cure, but from my personal experience, it does help. Meditation will not only shift your focus from your current situation, but it will also clean your thoughts and help your body regain a subtle energetic balance. Remember you’ll still have to take action, meditation will only dilute it.

31. Get Physical

Start an aggressive exercising routine. Getting physical will make it easier to embrace action and to do it with vigor and determination. A side effect of exercising is the “endorphin effect”: the induction of a well-being state generated by your own body.

32. This Too Shall Pass

Impermanence is at the core of our human nature, is our curse and escape: we’re prisoners of time and everything we experience is bound to it. Laughter and sadness, joy and depression, everything will fade away in time. The same will happen to this frustrating period too: it will pass.

33. Write A List Of 33 Ways To Overcome Frustration

This is an incredible exercise. As funny as it may seem in this context, it’s actually a very powerful standalone approach. Just sit back and try to imagine 33 ways to get over your current frustration. I bet that around number 20 your problem will seem smaller than you thought it was.

Source: http://www.dragosroua.com/33-ways-to-overcome-frustration/

Md. Abdullah- Al- Mamun (Badshah)

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Should Follow / Life’s Not Fair

« on: March 27, 2012, 07:04:58 AM »

Life’s Not Fair

Life’s not fair. Never was and never will be. “Fair” and “unfair” are mental constructs, ways of integrating an unexplainable mystery into a manageable system.

Because a manageable system creates the illusion of control. The more we categorize, the more we manage, the more we integrate, the more we believe we are in control. And the more in control we feel, the more secure we feel.

Security is the biggest lie we tell to ourselves, in a desperate act of survival. Life is never about survival. We survive anyway, in the end.

I may not be here tomorrow and so may you. And yet, we continue to push every second for an uncertain future, based on a fuzzy memory about what we think we may call happiness.

“Still being here tomorrow” became the highest satisfaction, our ultimate goal, for which we sacrifice every piece of authenticity. Being it a genuine laughter, a deep and profound sadness or the scariest shiver in front of what we think it may be a huge catastrophe.

We will be here tomorrow, in one shape or another. But our true nature may not. It may be lost in the limbo of dead memories, unborn worries and their constant, hypnotic balance between a dried past and a deluding future.

Life’s not fair. Never was and never will be. It’s full of surprises, uncontrollable and powerful beyond imagination. Today’s catastrophe carries the seeds for the next epiphany. The rapture of this very second will in fact open the gate for the next disaster. Ecstasy by ecstasy, tragedy by tragedy, we advance in a spiral of bliss.

The moment life will start to feel fair, check your pulse. You may be dead.

Source: http://www.dragosroua.com/lifes-not-fair/

Md. Abdullah-Al-Mamun (Badshah)

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Should Follow / 77 Reasons To Love Your Life

« on: March 25, 2012, 08:49:18 AM »

77 Reasons To Love Your Life

Too often we find more reasons to hate our life than to love it. And you know what? Life hates us back. Here are 77 reasons to love your life. Pick one or add your own in the comments.

     1.  love your life for everything you already have.
     2.  love your life for what you are yet to receive.
     3.  love your life for all your certainties.
     4.  love your life for the friends you have.
     5.  love your life for the wonderful journeys you had.
     6.  love your life for the friends you will get.
     7.  love your life for all the bad advice you didn’t follow.
     8.  love your life for your beautiful memories.
     9.  love your life for the ones you love.
    10. love your life for the ones you forgot, as they are still to enrich your life.
    11. love your life for the work you do, as this is your gift to the others.
    12. love your life for the jokes you still wait to hear.
    13. love your life for the beautiful travels you are still to make.
    14. love your life for everything you are not sure about, as it will still challenge your being.
    15. love your life for all the beautiful sunrises you remember.
    16. love your life for all the fantastic sunsets you still recall.
    17. love your life for tomorrow’s sunrise.
    18. love your life for every single second, as this is all you have, only this infinite second.
    19. love your life for yesterday sunset.
    20. love your life for the gifts you are yet to receive.
    21. love your life for the health you have.
    22. love your life for all the beauty you can spot around you.
    23. love your life for the ugliness around you, as it serves you to contrast the beauty you are ignoring.
    24. love your life for the riddles you haven’t yet solved.
    25. love your life for all your unanswered questions.
    26. love your life for all your victories.
    27. love your live for all the good advice you followed.
    28. love your life for all your lost battles, as they are your precious lessons.
    29. love your life for your enemies, as they are there to give birth to you forgiveness.
    30. love your life for all the small things in your life.
    31. love your life for all the ambitious goals you’ve set.
    32. love your life for all the answers you got so far.
    33. love your life for the smiles you get every day.
    34. love your life for the smiles you give every day.
    35. love your life for your energetic mornings.
    36. love your life for your romantic evenings.
    37. love your life for the life rediscovered through the eyes of your children.
    38. love your life for the smell of the rain.
    39. love your life for the gifts you still have to make.
    40. love your life for all the games you haven’t yet played.
    41. love your life for the next first snow.
    42. love your life for all the great ideas you had today.
    43. love your life for all the great ideas you will have tomorrow.
    44. love your life for tomorrow’s surprises.
    45. love your life for today’s gifts.
    46. love your life for all your fulfilled dreams.
    47. love your life for yesterday’s memories, they are there to en-light you.
    48. love your life for all the nice words you haven’t yet said to your loved ones.
    49. love your life for all the nice words you heard from your loved ones.
    50. love your life for all the nice people you haven’t yet met.
    51. love your life for all your mistakes, so you can have plenty of time to make up for them.
    52. love your life for all the adventures you haven’t yet had.
    53. love your life for all the books you haven’t yet read.
    54. love your life for all the books you haven’t yet written.
    55. love your life for all the unborn challenges you still have to face.
    56. love your life for all the stories you haven’t yet heard, written or imagined.
    57. love your life for the person who’s looking at you from the mirror every morning.
    58. love your life for the nurturing family you already have.
    59. love your life for all you have to share with others.
    60. love your life for all you’ve lost in your journey, as it will only make room for something even bigger.
    61. love your life for the feeling of your heart overflowing with love.
    62. love your life for all your unfulfilled dreams as you will have plenty of time to make them true.
    63. love your life for all the opportunities that are waiting for you just around the corner.
    64. love your life for the personal freedom you conquered.
    65. love your life for everything you created so far.
    66. love your life for the beauty of every spring.
    67. love your life for the energy of every summer.
    68. love your life for the emotions of every fall.
    69. love your life for the cold beauty of every winter.
    70. love your life for all the beauty inside you, waiting yet to be discovered.
    71. love your life for all the fantastic colors that are shaping your world every day.
    72. love your life for all the wonderful music you’ve heard so far.
    73. love your life for all the people you have met so far, they are your precious universe.
    74. love your life for wind that caresses your face every day.
    75. love your life for the all the unexpected changes of your plans.
    76. love your life for all the fights you avoided.
    77. love your life for all the crossroads you meet every day, they are there to offer you the best path you can chose.
  
Feel free to take this list and put it in your blog (with a link back to the original) and then add your own reasons. Feel free to tag your blogger friends and turn this into a meme. I only wrote 77 reasons for now but there are millions out there. Let’s share them.

Source: http://www.dragosroua.com/77-reasons-to-love-your-life/

Md. Abdullah-Al-Mamun (Badshah)

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Should Follow / 33 Questions For An Interview With Yourself

« on: March 25, 2012, 06:56:57 AM »

33 Questions For An Interview With Yourself

Today I’m going to interview somebody really special on my blog. And that would be you. Exactly, you, the one who’s looking at the screen right now. You are a very important person and it’s an honor for me to interview you. I prepared a list of 33 questions and I’m really looking forward to hear your answers.

Yes, this is an interview. With you. Why? Because you’re important, that’s why.

1. What Do You Do For A Living?
You may not know what you’re really doing for a living. You may think you have a job, but you’re actually just selling your time. And that comes down to selling your life. And that means you’re living your life by selling it. And you may not even know that.

2. Who Do You Love?
Is that your partner? Or somebody else? Do you love many persons at once? Just answer as detailed as you can to this one. We never seem to have enough time do really think at the ones we love. We can’t love someone if we forget to think about him.

3. Do You Have Enough Money?
That’s a very important question. You may have less money than everyone else in your group, but still have enough. Or you may have huge amounts of money and yet not enough to make you feel better. How much money do you need in your life?

4. Are You Healthy?
You may  be able to wake up every morning and go to work, but do you think at yourself as being a healthy person? The way you see your health has a huge impact on your reality perception. It’s like applying filters to what’s happening to you.

5. Do You Think You Are a Good Person?
Have you ever wandered what do you think about yourself from this point of view? Maybe we take it for granted that we are inherently good and all the other guys are wrong. But is this really true? Do you really think you are a good person? Why?

6. How Old Are You?
You shouldn’t just open your ID and do some math. It’s not the number of years since you’ve been born that matter here. But mostly how old do you feel you are. What’s your perceived age. Because, believe it or not, this is your real age.

7. Who’s Your Best Friend?
Do you have one? Is he or she still alive? Write his name and think at that person for a while. Write a short description of he or she. Where did you met first time? What were the circumstances? What makes that person your best friend, after all?

8. What’s Your Childhood Dream?
Do you still remember it? You wanted to travel the world? You wanted to just have a family and raise your kids? Is that what you’re doing right now? Has your dream become true? Or are you drifting away from it with every single day of your life?

9. How Often Do You Laugh?
Try to remember exactly how often do you laugh during a day. Is this a difficult thing? Why? Because you laugh so often that you couldn’t remember when was the last time you didn’t had a good laugh? Or because you simply forgot how it is to laugh?

10. What Makes You Smile?
List at least 10 items. If you can’t find 10 items that makes you smile, we have a problem. Don’t rush, take your time. Smiling is different from laughing the same way walking in the park is different from climbing a mountain. You’re just enjoying the walk.

11. Who’s Your Most Dangerous Enemy?
Do you have one? List his/her name here and a short story about how this enemy changed your life. Friends are making us do things for them, but enemies are making us do things because of them. Either way, they’re shaping our life and we must know how.

12. Where Do You Live?
Is this really your place? Do you feel at home there? How did you end up with it, anyway? The story of your house is deeply blended with your own life. Where do you feel at home is the most important place in the world for you. What makes it home?

13. Do You Think You’re Strong?
I would be really curious to know the answer to this one. I love strong people. They have this power to change their life and to create incredible things. What “strong” means to you? It’s a question of force? Or endurance? Of speed? Or intelligence?

14. What Was The Most Important Thing You’ve Done So Far?
Have you really done something important? Something that changed your life fundamentally? Or something that changed somebody else’s life fundamentally? Why was that important? Answer with first thing that pops out in your head.

15. What Was The Most Stupid Thing You’ve Done So Far?
Do you consider you’ve done stupid things in your life? I think everybody does but not everybody admits that. Most of the people blame the circumstance, the karma, the others, everyone except them. Do you have the power to accept you’ve done a really stupid thing?

16. Do You Love Yourself?
Like really, truly accepting everything about you. Does it happen to hate yourself? Most people do that without even being aware. Just answer the first thing that pops to your head, again. Usually, this is exactly how you feel about yourself.

17. What Do You Fear The Most?
That might be difficult. But also liberating. Your biggest fear is most of the time your escape door, if you face it with enough courage. Can you think at something that scares you really hard? Maybe answering to this question will really frighten you?

18. What Is Your Favorite Word?
You must have one, everybody does. It might be the one you’re saying all day long without realizing or it might be something that really makes you feel good when you’re telling it. Most of the time, there’s an unconscious link between your true self and this word.

19. When Was The Last Time You Cried?
Admit it. Everybody cries. Men, women, kids. It might be something you’re not very proud of, but that doesn’t mean it didn’t happened. What was so powerful that really cracked you up inside? Think about it and let it emerge again. Make peace with it. If you can.

20. What Is The Best Thing That Could Happen To You Right Now?
In this exact context, what’s the only thing that could shift your entire existence if it will manifest right now? Many people tend to give a certain amount of money as a number, but in my experience this will only maximize the problems, not making them go away.

21. What Is The Worst Thing That Could Happen To You Right Now?
Again, what’s the only thing that could negatively impact your life right now in a way that you wouldn’t believe it’s possible? Between those two possibilities lies your entire lifespan. How is this lifespan? How large is your road are you traveling now?

22. Picture Yourself In 5 Years From Now
Not really a question, but definitely an interesting answer. Can you see yourself in 5 years from now? How would you look? How would you behave? You would do the same things are you doing right now? Don’t write a full story, a single, concentrated sentence would be enough.

23. Do You Regret Anything?
If yes, what exactly? If not, why not. Regrets are usually strings we didn’t pull entirely from our past, leaving us tied up to a context which is not longer real. Facing your regrets will reveal parts of yourself you thought you forgot. Important parts of yourself.

24. What’s The First Thing You Do In The Morning?
Just after you open your eyes. Is it a thought? Is it a gesture? We all tend to create a morning routine and it seems that this routine is shaping our entire diurnal activity. Have you ever thought what is the first thing you do in the morning?

25. What Are You Thinking Just Before Going To Bed?
Similarly, before you go to bed, you do have preferred thought. What is it? What makes your transition to the sleeping world without any major frictions? What’s your password to the dream realm? What if you would lose this thought suddenly?

26. What Was The Highest Point You’ve Ever Been To?
Was it a mountain? Or a huge city tower? Whatever feels high for you should go there. I don’t want to know the difference from the sea level, but what exactly you experienced on the highest perceived point you’ve ever been? Fear? Exhilaration?

27. If There’s One Thing In Your Life You Want To Change Right Now, What Is It?
Imagine you met a fairy tale and you have only one wish: you could change only one thing in your life. What is that thing? How would you like to change it? If it wasn’t this absolute power you just received, would you still wanted that thing to be changed?

28. What Are You Proud Of?
What is the only thing you’ve done that will instantly make you feel totally and undeniably proud of yourself? When you did that? What were the circumstances? Would you still do the same thing now?

29. Sum Up Your Life In One Sentence
If in the next 10 seconds your life will end, how would you describe it? Just one sentence for your entire life. Can you do that? You only have 10 seconds, so you can consider this a speed question. :-)

30. Name The Thing That Annoys You The Most
Is this a mosquito humming? The sounds of a knife on a porcelain plate? Or is it people calling you in a certain way? Friends breaking promises? Being stuck in traffic? Try to remain calm while answering.

31. What Is Your No 1 Question To God?
Yes, it’s your interview, but if you would be able to address one question to God, assuming He will answer you, what would that question look like? What is the most important thing you want to know from God?

32. Do You Have Secrets?
If yes, why? If not, are you sure? What is your number one reason for having and keeping secrets? Are you afraid of other people reactions? Ar you ashamed? Or you just love to cover things for the pleasure of re-discovering them later?

33. What Makes You Laugh?
You do have something that instantly puts you in a totally laughing state, do you? There must be something that makes you laugh out loud. What is it? When was the first time you bumped into that thing?

Source: http://www.dragosroua.com/33-questions-for-an-interview-with-yourself/

Md. Abdullah-Al-Mamun (Badshah)

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Should Follow / 14 Ways To Say Yes

« on: March 24, 2012, 11:07:40 PM »

14 Ways To Say Yes

Mastering the art of saying “No” is compulsory in many cases. We do have to learn how to say it without offending the other person and still getting what we want. Appropriately saying “No” can really save our butt from a tricky situation and that’s why mastering our “No”‘s is so important.
And still, the real power lies not in saying “No”, but in saying “Yes”. If mastering the “No”‘s will activate an invisible safety belt, a good, plain and timely “Yes” will push us higher than we think we can. If “No” is the savior, “Yes” is the creator. “No” is defensive, “Yes” is empowering.

Let’s play a little with the art of saying “Yes”.

1. I Do!
If you ever asked somebody to marry you, than you know what I mean: “I do” is a very interesting form of total submission and commitment. You say “I do” with almost your last breathe, still thinking the other person would never ask. You are almost shouting, raising your voice in an effort of being heard and accepted. Can you hear me? I’m here! I do!

2. Let’s Do It!
The practical approach of starting stuff together. You use “Let’s do it” when you’re eager to start, have almost everything it takes, the only extra piece being saying it out loud so the other part can hear it. “Let’s do it” is the ultimate involvement answer, it’s so enabling that it barely qualify for a plain “Yes”, it’s more of an informal affiliation statement:.

3. What Are We Waiting For?
The standard “Yes” of the impatient (and maybe of the compulsive one, but I’m not quite sure about that). This answer literally bury the question and move the focus on the physical action. If you get this type of “Yes” it means the question was superfluous. Instead, you should just move on and start doing things.

4. Hell, Yes
Enthusiastic and passionate, this answer always reminds me of a long dusty road in the desert and a nice bike under the rider. It’s the ultimate expression of freedom, of leaving behind the old version of you and starting over. Every time I hear this answer, I know something fundamentally new will happen.

5. I’m In It
Business-like expression of a partnership. This “Yes” is wearing a suit and it’s quite disciplined. If your question involves some long term plan, receiving this “Yes” could be a very good sign. It shows commitment and strictness. The tricky part is that the other person is looking forward for the same things in you, so be careful.

6. I Was Born For It
“I’m waiting for this question since I was born, dude. Of course, it’s yes. How can it be the other way around?” This “Yes” is always making me smile. Makes me actually visualize the whole process: well, I think I would like to be born for…. that thing! Can we do it? Please? Wow, great, now let’s find some guys to spread the word about it.

7. Of Course
Chilling and kinda polite. This “Yes” goes well with a cup of the and some biscuits. Maybe a little break in the afternoon, around five o’clock, but let’s not push it. Whenever I hear this “Yes” I’m also prepared to hear a “but”. I think this “Yes” is the most “but”-prone from all. Nevertheless, hearing it makes me feel like I’m having some very important negotiation.

8. My Thoughts Exactly
Confirming and validating, this “Yes” is almost a confession. It’s so powerful that I’m sometimes afraid I actually penetrated into the other guy’s mind. I mean, are those really his thoughts? Wow. Whenever I use it, I do it because I really trust the other person or I try to build a more intimate connection. Which is always happening after this type of “Yes”.


9. Are We There Yet?
And that would be actually the “Yes” of the compulsive. I admit I get the shivers when I hear it, although I do know it’s funny. But the confirmation level is so high and the triggered energy seems so available, that I’m almost feeling guilty for not going “there” yet. I also think this is the more validating “Yes” from all.

10. You’ll Lead, I’ll Follow
Any “Yes” expressed in this form will show total trust and confidence from the other part. When it does not show a fine sense of irony too, of course. It’s the most uncertain “Yes” from all. If I hear this, I know that although I’m getting followed, I somehow keep all the responsibility. This “Yes” comes with a little bit of extra caution.

11. Aye, Aye, Sir!
Military-like acceptance. You can’t mistake this one as a disguised “No”, in my opinion. I almost always respond to this “Yes” with a relieving “Dismissed!”, just for the fun of it. And every time I hear it, I’m compelled to continue the discussion in short but strong sentences, also know as orders. The nice thins with orders is that you expect them to be followed, most of the time.

12. Undoubtedly
In case you’re having any doubt, I mean. If you’re hearing this, you’re taking off the veil from a possibly foggy situation and acknowledge total confidence. This “Yes” is coming with the sound of a hammer hitting a nail right in the head. If you know what I mean. I think this “Yes” is the most relieving of all.

13. Always!
You know I do, why are you still asking? It’s also a form of past, present and future commitment. If you hear this, your next question may not be necessary at all. This “Yes” is more than often the beginning of a beautiful friendship.

14. Totally!
Unreserved immersion and acceptance. That “yes” is my favorite, but if you ask me why, I’m not sure I know the answer. Maybe because I am that kind of guy: if I’m in it for something, I simply don’t know the meaning of half, I do it all the way up to the end.

Source: http://www.dragosroua.com/14-ways-to-say-yes/


Md. Abdullah- Al- Mamun (Badshah)

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Should Follow / Importance of Logic

« on: March 24, 2012, 10:17:29 PM »

Importance of Logic

Logic is a way of learning to think and communicate clearly and coherently. In daily living, clear and coherent communication is essential to efficiently accomplish anything which involves the participation of another. While one can come to basic understandings between parties without logic, the greater the lack of an understanding of logic by one party, the greater the likelihood of miss-communication and it's undesired results.

A person who can not think logically will have to be swayed emotionally or socially instead of intellectually (intellectual positions requiring an understanding of factual conditions, which are then weighed). Daily, they become, therefore, unwitting accomplices of superior orators, con artists, etc. rather than being able to assess and evaluate specific proposals on merit. Therefore, their own interests (if they fleshed them out) are less likely to be proposed on their behalf, but the interests of those who emotionally/socially compelled them.

At the minimum, I want to know my beliefs, why I believe them, and act correspondingly. Logic, I believe, is essential to being able to accomplish this in daily living.

Md. Abdullah- Al- Mamun (Badshah)

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Should Follow / 10 Simple Steps to Motivate a Friend

« on: March 24, 2012, 06:19:17 AM »

10 Simple Steps to Motivate a Friend

Your idea of a good weekend morning is to kick off with a brisk run (or a spin class or hike or other invigorating exercise), rustle up a healthy – and hearty – breakfast, and then get on with the rest of your day. Your friend, on the other hand, sleeps till noon, wakes up and drives to the bagel store and wastes the rest of the day watching re-runs of America’s Next Top Model. But then they come to you and ask for help…ask to turn their lifestyle around and become…well…more like you.

And, while imitation is certainly the most sincere form of flattery, why is it so darn hard to motivate a friend? The following are our top 10 ways to set a friend on the path to a fit and healthy lifestyle without compromising your friendship – or your sanity!

1. No! No! No!
When it comes to leading others, sometimes it’s important to first address the long list of things to do. What won’t work when it comes to motivating a friend? Prying, nagging, begging, bartering, manipulating, criticizing and shaming. If you can’t remember all of these, at the very least remember this one: Don’t offer advice unless you are asked. Trust us!

2. Model Behavior
If your friend has asked for help, chances are they have already recognized that you know what’s what when it comes to all things health and fitness related. Your next move? Prolong this perspective by serving as a wellness model and advocate. For example, if you hit a restaurant, order sensibly – show your friend that eating well doesn’t have to mean being chained to your own kitchen. Or, if your friend is a sucker for happy hour, suggest that you get together for an après work walk. The point? Monkey see, monkey do works just as well for friends!

3. Listen Up
Life would be so much easier if people said what they actually meant, but unfortunately a friend isn’t likely to directly ask for help with their health. Instead, they are more likely to inquire about your eating patterns, where you have a gym membership or exactly what it is you do to stay in such good shape. Rather than just give them a run down of your preferred treadmill settings or talk about the hotties in your spin class, take cues from their inquiries to offer suggestions for how they could step up their own health game.

4. Struggling
Chances are you weren’t born a fitness buff, but rather became one across a period of time. At some point – or even points – it would have been easy to ditch your healthy lifestyle and resort back to your old couch potato ways, but you powered through. Perhaps it required finding a new exercise you loved, experimenting more in the kitchen or simply just setting a new goal. Whatever it was, pretending that the road to wellness has been easy isn’t realistic. Instead share your struggles. Not only will it create bonds (because who doesn’t love a story about overcoming a struggle!) but it will also help your friend to realize that while you might not have all of the answers, your journey is theirs too – only you’re just a little further down the road.

5. Care Bear
Change is never easy, and when your friend is kicking off a whole new lifestyle, it’s bound to be a bump in the road. The best way to help out? Listen to their stories, let them complain and be their shoulder to cry on – quite simply, position yourself as someone who cares.

6. Structural Support
You might not be able to be there in the morning to get them out of bed for that early CrossFit session or be allowed – at least in some social circles – to slap the bagel out of their hand, but sometimes just lending a little support can go a long way. Be there when they need help, have them over for a healthy dinner (and be sure to offer up the recipe!) or set up a gym date – whatever it takes to show them your unfailing support!

7. School’s In
Once your friend has shown an interest in health and fitness, it’s time for you to subtly give advice. But rather than just serve as their fountain of knowledge, steer them to resources (such as Mark’s Daily Apple) that they can access on their own. There are plenty of health and fitness blogs and resources out there, some more helpful than others, but try to help guide them towards those that will help them understand the importance of living a healthy lifestyle and how to best approach the task.

8. Can Do!
Perhaps they’ve started on this wellness kick because a doctor told them that they’re at risk for a heart attack, diabetes or another debilitating disease. Yes, the threat of sickness – or worse, death – can be a strong motivator, but when it comes to friends, it’s better to keep the outlook positive. Rather than focus on reducing risk, focus on the positive aspects of exercise – the high you get once you’ve run your first full mile, the sense of achievement you feel when your kids finally tell you that stir fry was delicious or the sheer excitement of slipping into a pair of jeans you haven’t worn in years. The point here? Positive always prevails when it comes to motivating friends!

9. The Onus Brothers
While you can certainly do your part to help your friend become a fitness aficionado, the reality is, you can’t do it alone. Instead, the onus is on them to make the decision to be healthy, to decide how to implement a fitness and diet regimen that works for them. In this case, while your support and advice is certainly welcome, this one, quite simply, just isn’t about you!

10. Let’s Celebrate
Your friend did it – they turned their life around, met a fitness goal, or mastered a new activity. Whatever the measure, be sure to celebrate the success. It doesn’t have to mean a big gift, a blow-out-bash or some other material token – you’ll find that a true friend can celebrate just by providing a few words of encouragement. Especially when those words are coming from the very fitness guru who has been there since day one.

Source: http://www.marksdailyapple.com/10-simple-steps-to-motivate-a-friend/#axzz1q23BTXgH

Md. Abdullah- Al- Mamun (Badshah)

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Should Follow / How to Break Bad Habits

« on: March 24, 2012, 06:10:03 AM »

How to Break Bad Habits

Bad health habits come in all forms, we know. But the question of the day is this: how do we finally rid ourselves of those compulsive longings, those simultaneously desired and resented routines? Is it simply a matter of will power? Is it clever strategy? Permanent exile from the world where these pet practices and items can’t taunt us with their presence? We’re interested in what your tips (and those past/present vices) are, but here are some ideas to get the proverbial ball rolling – and that monkey off your back.

1. Dig up the who, what, when, where, why and how.
More than just a journalist’s framework, you can take advantage of some digging yourself. Sure, the “what” (the habit itself) probably seems pretty clear, but as you look to revise your routine, consider the context of your target habit. Does a certain friend always try to cut into/distract your gym time? When do you feel most vulnerable in the face of sweet snacks? Where is it hardest to turn down that cup of coffee? How does your family’s routine seem to sabotage your own best efforts and goals? Why do you think you keep coming back to the habit, be it anything from breakfast cereal to workout-less weekends to an occasional (gasp!) cigarette? What’s behind that habit anyway? What are you holding onto? Why does it have the sway over you that it does? Is it a stand-in or excuse for something else going on in your life/psyche?

2. Plan.
As you pinpoint the backdrop that keeps you hooked to those bad habits, take the opportunity to plan some strategies that you’ll rely on when faced with temptation. Maybe it’s an alternate entrée for the Wednesday lunch you have with friends. Perhaps it’s a thoughtful but casual way to decline after-work drinks or a good excuse to change your workout time to a more productive, less distracting time. Write (or record) a pep talk for yourself to dig out when you need it. Or, if it’s more your style, a kick-your-own-butt, what-are-you-thinking speech. What will you do or turn to when you find yourself turning toward instead of steering clear of the habitual path?

3. But don’t plan too much.
Sometimes it’s easy to put so much energy into planning to give up a habit that your efforts simply allow you to put off the actual leap itself. How many of us have been stuck circling in this pattern for more weeks/months/years than we’d care to admit? At some point, you have to bite the bullet and say that you’ll deal with the difficulties as they come. Decide today to not give into the habit, and then be willing to say the same tomorrow. That’s how it starts.

4. Toss the triggers.
The obvious point here is to get rid of any items whose sole purpose will be to tempt you away from your best intentions. (As in, bring any remaining Halloween treats to work the morning after, or just be really generous in the last part of the evening. Better yet, give out something that doesn’t lead anyone else down that Pied Piper path to begin with – more help on that this week.) If your triggers are less object-oriented and more contextual, toss the typical routines that encourage bad habits. Meet friends for a walk in the park instead of for dinner. Take up a fitness or dance class with your partner instead of spending Friday nights parked on the couch. Put the kids in charge of their own morning routine and get in a workout or meditation session instead. Taking on a long-held habit usually means taking charge of your life in a new way.

5. Spread the word.
For those people who are more socially motivated, letting the word out can give you added incentive to stay on track. No, it doesn’t mean you have to shout your intention from the rooftops. It’s more about the people you’re closer to. Letting a few close friends or family members know your intention can make the goal seem more real. Look at it as a supportive group helping you “stay true” in your pursuit. Your success is ultimately your effort and commitment, but it always helps knowing you have a crowd (or even close pal) cheering for you.

6. Pair up.
Do you have a friend or family member who’s also looking to give up a bad habit? Join forces. You’ll not only have some added support, you’ll also have the motivation of living up to your end of the bargain. When the going gets tough you can share strategies and humor to keep you both on course. One caution: be sure to not become dependent on that person’s participation. It’s ultimately your pursuit, whether the other person sticks with his/her choice or not.

7. A page a day.
Ever notice the exhaustive chronicles of weight loss, smoking cessation and the like on everything from MySpace to Flickr Commons? Sure, there’s the social element of announcing your intention and success, but we think there’s more to the project than that. Whether public or private, recording your pursuit (in all its flesh and blood humanity) can be therapeutic. Particularly if you’re a more introverted person, bringing your thoughts to the page in whatever form (journaling, doodling, extemporaneous collage…) can offer a sense of personal release and allow a space for you to be 100% candid, no holds barred. Chances are you’ll be able to look back on the collection with gratitude and likely a few good laughs.

8. Periodic incentive plan.
We approach the idea of “reward” cautiously because, like planning endeavors, rewards can sometimes act as divergent and ultimately derailing factors. What’s at the real root of breaking a bad habit, after all, but undertaking contemplation, cultivating discipline, framing a new routine or even outlook surrounding one’s health and daily practice? Rewards, while they can be a nice pick-me-up when you need them, don’t do much to bolster the real process. Our advice for incentives? Make them health-oriented. Design a “health indulgence” day, whatever that may look like for you.

9. If you falter, explore what went awry.
Remember that “flesh and blood humanity” bit? We’ve all been there. There’s the old adage, “If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again.” (Then there’s the alternate ending – “you’re running about average”.) Instead of beating yourself up about it, take a day and then do the necessary post- Morten. What do you think inspired the lapse, whether it be a weak moment, an ill-considered decision, or a self-sabotaging act? What about your routine do you think you need to change this time around? Do you need some new strategies, a realignment of life priorities, or some deeper deliberation about what’s fueling the habit?

10. If you succeed, study what worked.
When it comes to health (or life), we don’t believe in resting on your laurels. Good health choices are ultimately about getting up every morning and choosing to do the “right” thing for your body. Every day requires a renewed commitment and a willingness to be present and accountable in the moment. But you have a lot to learn from your own past success. What did you tell yourself that made you get to the gym this weekend? How did you let go of the stress during the really bad day last week? What did you choose to do this morning when you wanted to go for your morning coffee and donut but didn’t? Knowing what you’ve done to resist temptation in the past can build up your “toolbox” of strategies and also reassure you in less confident moments that you have what it takes to kick the habit.

Source: http://www.marksdailyapple.com/how-to-break-bad-habits/#axzz1q23BTXgH


Md. Abdullah-Al-Mamun (Badshah)